Motivators and Coaches tell you to take a risk, to try, to declare your love to that girl or boy, they tell you to give up your slave-like job and look for something better, to get out of your comfort zone and try something new, to try another city and other people...
What none of them talk about is the pain, perhaps because either it didn't hurt them much or it simply went well or more or less well for them.
The truth and what we should all know is that not everyone turns out well or more or less well, for some it turns out very badly, horribly wrong and I am not against taking risks, I know that sometimes you have to do it, I am not against trying, leaving the comfort zone, looking for something new but it is very important that we know the part that they do not tell us and that is that sometimes it can go horribly wrong and it will hurt, it will hurt with a pain that you never imagined feeling and it's not about making them afraid, it's about preparing them because in life, taking risks isn't so good for everyone.
And I emphasize that I am not against it but it is also good to prepare people for the pain and the negative results so that they do not end up with a rope around their neck or a blade in their veins or dead with an overdose like many and like it almost happened to me.
I am an example of this, I blindly followed many motivators. Someone who used to be a tremendous motivator, and today apparently is more of a pastor than a motivator, Dante Gebel. And he said, "Declare your love, it is worse to spend a lifetime regretting not having done it" and yes he was right in what he said but he never talked about the horrible pain of rejection or even the horrible shame that one feels.
"Leave that job where they exploit you...", "You're worth it" Maybe there are thousands of companies out there wishing to have someone like you in their company, come on, take the risk, don't be afraid, fear belongs to losers and your friend of mine doesn't. "You're a loser" -and everyone applauds-.
Aha, but you already have another job for when you leave that one? What if it doesn't turn out like the motivator that you are going to live said?
It is not being coerced to fail, it is being cautious. The same Bible that is a book of faith says: Who, wanting to build a house, does not first sit down and calculate the cost? Luke 14:28-33 And obviously it is not only a monetary cost, it is all kinds of costs, emotional, financial, social...
"If that is the love of your life, get married, I got married, I started living in an apartment the size of a bathroom and after 6 months I already had a house because when there is love anything is possible" -Aha, but if you don't like it? Does it happen like this? What if you have to take her to live with your parents and it turns out that the love of your life doesn't like them and they make her live hell and you can't tell them anything because you live lying down?
I hope you understand that it is not that I am a pessimist but a realist and today there are too many motivators who love to excite people but do not prepare people for adversity and I personally as well as many people have been victims of that.
Nowadays everyone is "life coaching" today, not even in most churches do they tell you the truth, but what they do is move you and tell you that if you set your mind to something, the universe will be on your side. But no, sometimes the universe will not take your side if it does not seem to behave like your enemy and you should know that.
These people sometimes talk about insult and pain as something simple, no, it is not simple, it is horrible, sometimes the pain is so unbearable that you think that neither your mind nor your body can bear it and it does not matter how much of a man of faith you think you are. It's going to happen to you too.
I would have liked someone to tell me these words before blindly following every motivator I found along the way.
And yes, take a risk, try, go for your thing but don't let it be something merely emotional because a guy who you pay to make you emotional (whether he is a pastor, lifecoaching, coach or whatever) manipulated you into it.
I hope it can be of use to someone.
Kisses
elprofebubba
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