What happened with Steven Lawson is not something simple, much less for the family. I am the son of a pastor, my father also failed, my father raised two granddaughters from babies and my father's infidelity became public and my nieces tell me that they could not go out because they were made fun of by telling them that they were the granddaughters of the "pastor who cheats." Yes, these things must come to light. Uhmmm and it is a sign for everyone that no one is exempt and it is good especially for those with sound doctrine who tend to be very conceited. Years ago my mother taught me that when one believes very strongly in something or is very arrogant, God will allow or will make us fall into sin just to deal with the arrogance.
I believe that in these things God will also measure the wisdom of his people, the idea is not to cover up but not to destroy either because it can happen to any of us. And there is another question that we should be asking ourselves, and the question is "What is happening in pastoral families?" I recently made a post about what happens to pastors' children when they reach 15 years of age, what is being done and what is not being done, that they end up mostly separated from the church or if they are, they have it as a club.
Now we have to ask ourselves what happens in pastoral families. My father was a very anointed man, just looking at people and they were healed, idolized by many... For years I was in charge of a congregation and I knew a lot about the pastoral environment and we see what happened with Lawson and we are surprised but there are many that do not come to light, wives who suffer in silence. I have never asked my mother how long she knew about my father's infidelity. I only remember many years ago I told her about some things about my father that I saw as incorrect and she only answered me "Sometimes we just have to keep quiet and not say anything because he is the man whom God is using." Today I wonder how much she wanted to tell me with those words.
There are problems in pastoral families and they must be identified, because as I said it is not only in the couple itself, there are problems in the whole family, I as a pastor's son who had the opportunity to relate with other pastors' sons can attest to that, and then as a pastor, having to see such terrible things... one sees what happened with Steve Lawson and is surprised, but there are many other cases that do not come to light.
Pastors are always worried about the church, whether as a church or as a business, and they tend to forget that their main ministry is in their home, my father and many other pastors forgot that and many lives of pastors' sons and pastors' wives have been a disaster, what people see is just a picture mounted on the wall...
There is a book called "Skeletons in the Closet: Memories of a Pastor's Son" (Martin Garcia) it is a true story that shows that pastoral families are in crisis. Something must be done...
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