AND HOW ARE YOU?

 And how are you?

Two days ago I learned of the last death of a Christian BY SUICIDE!

Last year I was surprised by the news of the large number of suicides among Christians. It is a taboo subject because how is it possible for a Christian to commit suicide having Christ?!

The surprising number of suicides in the large number of pastors, pastors' wives and pastors' children who are among the dead.

The most faithful and conservative dare to say that it is a lack of faith, a lack of prayer...

I, the son of a pastor, since I was a child in the church I consider myself a man of prayer, since at 13 years old I already prayed from 2 in the morning until 6 in the morning, apart from that I prayed twice more a day, an average of 7 hours of prayer a day since I was 13 years old. Besides, I have been a student of the Bible since I was a teenager.

I, I have had more than 3 suicide attempts (I have been miraculously saved). And I want to give my opinion on this.

A while ago I heard a sermon where the preacher said that if someone asked you how you were, you could never say that you were sick.

As a Christian, a man of the church, a man of the Bible and of prayer, I can tell you that there, in that point of view of that preacher, there is where the great problem with the increase in the suicide rate of Christians is.

WE CANNOT SPIRITUALIZE EVERYTHING!!!

There are needs of the soul.

Depression among Christians is real!

ELIAS became depressed and God did not scold him and tell him that he should not be sad. Nor did He say to him "You are depressed because you lack prayer"

Jesus was sad, Paul went through great moments of sadness AND THEY DID NOT HIDE THEIR SADNESS!

Christians are urged to have a life where we must hide sadness AND THAT IS NOT BIBLICAL!

No, we cannot walk around all the time with a rainy face. The apostle Paul wrote letters urging joy in the midst of prison and sad moments, but he himself did not hide his sadness. He clearly showed his sadness in his letters.

He did not write: "Timothy, I am super cool" "I am excellent" NOOO!!!

HE wrote phrases like:

-Romans 9:2 I have great sadness and continual pain in my heart.

-Phil 2:27 For he was sick, close to death; and God had mercy on him, and not only on him but also on me, so that I would not have sadness upon sadness. (that is, he was already sad)

-Phil 2:28 So I am sending him with the greater diligence, so that when you see him again you may rejoice and I may be less sad ("With less" meaning he was sad)

JESUS ​​DID NOT HIDE HIS SADNESS EITHER:

-Mat 26:38 Then Jesus said to them, "My soul is exceedingly sad, even to death; stay here and keep watch with me."

I repeat: IT IS NOT BIBLICAL TO WALK AROUND WITH A RAINY FACE EVERY DAY, NOR TO WALK AROUND EVERY DAY AS IF YOUR SOUL HAD BEEN TAKEN OUT, but it is not biblical to hide sadness either. It is not biblical that even when you are dying inside you say that you are fine, because that makes everything stay inside and since we do not talk about it with anyone because as a Christian I cannot say that I am sad, we end up making the decision to commit suicide.

I laugh a lot and I don't go around with a rainy face every day, but if you ask me how I am and that day I am feeling bad I will tell you: "I am feeling bad" if you don't like it I'm ok with it! If you call me lacking spirituality I'M ok with it!

I think that there have been enough suicides among Christians and it is time that in the churches we read the scriptures well and understand that it is okay to say that we are feeling bad, it is okay to seek help, it is okay to seek a shoulder to cry on and it is the church that must provide those shoulders.

Christians must understand that we have a soul, that we have feelings, that we have emotions and the soul has its needs.

IT IS BIBLICAL TO SAY THAT YOU ARE SAD!

IT IS BIBLICAL TO SAY THAT YOU ARE WRONG!

And please if you say it and a Christian thinks that it makes you less Christian or less spiritual, don't give it importance, I already gave you the verses that show that it is not wrong to say 'that you are feeling bad'

Please do not lock yourself in, do not believe that there is no one who understands you.

Jesus understood Elijah's depression and did not scold him for it. And there are people who, like me, have gone through that and can support you. Remember that there are pastors who only repeat what they were taught without investigating.

IT IS OK TO SAY THAT YOU ARE WRONG!

Seek support, I know that there are things that cannot be talked about with everyone because even among Christians there are very snide people, but ask God to put someone for you.

I did it and he put different recurring people.

There were moments of desperation when I ran after pastors for help and they rejected me and it turned out that God put unexpected people who may not have the label of 'pastor' but had a sensitive heart.

If someone belittles you, keep looking. Please do not let yourself be.

The last suicide I heard about, the one I talked about at the beginning, was a pastor's wife. She had no one to talk to, she knew she would be labeled as lacking spirituality... She didn't find a shoulder to cry on or hearts to care for her pain. Please keep looking, ask God to put people in your place. God will put them there. God understands you and God biblically approves of you saying how you really feel and doesn't condemn you for it.

Kisses