Today I knew about another suicide within pastoral families. The wife of a pastor committed suicide, supposedly because she could no longer bear the abuse from her husband, and the husband came forward and said that she always had mental problems. I want to say something.
I am the son of a pastor, I lived a life of abuse and there was no leader who helped me, because no one wanted to stand against "The man of God." I tried to commit suicide several times and thank God it did not end in death.
But this area of abuse within pastoral families is something that should be taken seriously, instead of continuing to be covered up.
I know that if I had committed suicide, surely my father would have said the same thing as her husband: "He had mental problems for a long time." I don't know when, but we have to start raising our voices. My father was a well-known man of God throughout the country and that is why no one dared to believe us.
Great men of God are not great men of God because they touch people and they fall down trembling, or because they touch people and they are healed, I don't know when that will be understood.
How many more pastors' sons have to commit suicide? How many more pastors' wives have to commit suicide? Is nobody going to do anything?
I understand that perhaps on this occasion it is true that he had mental problems, but given what I have experienced I also know that it can be an excuse to get out of it.
Once before my father was a pastor he was a leader of a church and I spoke to the pastor of the church asking for help for the abuses and my father told that pastor that it was a lie, that my problem was that I was possessed by demons. And what did that pastor do? Instead of investigating properly, he went to my house to rebuke the demons.
By the way, when he was a pastor the abuses got worse and I had nowhere to go and that's when the suicide attempts began.
In my intention to do something, I wrote a book about the subject and I am giving it away. If anyone wants to help me by spreading the word and making this book reach as many people as possible, it would be appreciated. Now, if you want to help me by buying it, it would also be appreciated, but I am giving it away because I do not want one more suicide. The book is called "Skeletons in the Closet - Memories of a Pastor's Son."
You can write to me and I will give you a digital copy and please give it to any Christian you find. The book is focused on helping Christians so that they are not so blind.
mail: gonzalezdomingo@gmail.com
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